Musings and Amusings

This was our conversation last weekend on Hub’s birthday:

Me: “Honey, We are so fortunate we’ve been able to share so many birthdays together.”

Hub: “We are.”

Me: “I hope we both stay healthy enough that we can enjoy many more together.”

Hub: “Me, too.”

Me: “But I know how lonely you would be if anything happened to me. If I die first, I want you to find a companion who can share golf with you because we have such fun when we play.”

Hub: “OK”

Me: “In fact, you should let her use my clubs.”

Hub: “No, I would never do that.”

Me: “Why not? They are really good clubs, and I don’t mind.”

Hub: “No, I can’t.”

Me: “Why not?”

Hub: “Because she’s left-handed.”

April Fools

Ha ha ha – April Fool’s Joke!

THAT conversation never happened.

But the following conversation actually occurred a few years ago …

If we don’t spend Thanksgiving Day with friends or family, we like to go for a long walk after dinner. One of our traditional walks meanders through a local cemetery where our talk often turns to our own lives, our remaining years, and whether we want to be buried, cremated, have a tombstone – more in a reflective than maudlin way.

That particular year, I was feeling thankful for all the spectacular vacations we’d taken, especially to some quaint locales before development changed their character and made them over-populated tourist meccas.

Honey,” I said, “when I die, I want you to cremate me and take my ashes back to all the places we’ve traveled together and have such fond memories. Sprinkle a little of me each place you go, and enjoy being there again yourself.”

Like where?” he asked.

Oh, you know, like Turks and Caicos, the Cayman Islands, Young Island, Maui, Mackinac Island, the Lake Superior shore, San Francisco, Paris, Carmel, Telluride, Santoriniย  the Maine coast. What do you think? Would you like to do that?

Hub … thinking … pausing … grinning …ย “Would I have to go alone?”

Flying into Turks & Caicos 1987

Flying into Turks & Caicos 1987

Comments on: "Hub Says the Darndest Things" (51)

  1. Ha ha that’s funny Sammy D, thanks for the smile! I’ve said to my husband that if I die before he does, he can marry (few girlfriends’ names given) but he may NOT marry *Fiona* or *Belinda* and if he does I’ll be watching from up above or worse, from below …

    • LOL i’m glad you’re looking out for your husband too ๐Ÿ˜Š too funny. I wonder if we should put our “yes, her” and “no, not her” lists in our will ?!?

  2. Love it! We had many a “crazy” conversation like that… a good thing too as I respected Mick’s wishes and he now finds himself in a Vintage Coca Cola bottle, waiting for fishing season so he can go “swim with the fishes”…

    • Dale – what a humorous, loving touch in the midst of your family’s loss. I look forward to your post when Mick (what a cutie) goes to swim with the fishes as I’m sure somewhere in that releasing, you’ll find ‘a sign’ that he is always with you.

      Now I’m thinking about bottles …

      Much love, Sammy

      • Thanks for checking it out. He was quite a number and it was fitting that he be “exposed” as he wished… no other wake will be the same! You can be sure I’ll be writing about the next phase…though fishing was a “boys only” activity. Maybe they’ll allow me to come along for the ride.

      • Is there a post explaining “why the coke bottle?” That’s the only ‘creative treasure chest’ I’ve seen. I love the whimsey of it.

      • No, there isn’t. Maybe I should, eh? Long story short is he collected Coke paraphernalia for years and years and this particular bottle is over 25 years old (you can’t get those any more). Years ago, Mick told me that he wanted it to be used as his urn. Ever the devoted wife… ๐Ÿ˜‰
        I will be writing a series of stories of our (mis)adventures over our almost 20-years together; there will definitely be one devoted to “The Bottle”!

      • When I was a kid, one of Dad’s friends worked in Purdue, IN in a coke bottling plant. When we’d visit, he’d take us to the plant and, of course, we were fascinated by the assembly lines, mountains of coke bottles, etc. i think of him whenever I see the old bottles.

        Your plan for short stories is great – you are a wonderful story-teller, and Mick appears to have given you some rich material ๐Ÿ˜‹

      • Oh, thank you! (Considering I just read a comment that one of my stories did not merit a like, because it was only good, not more!)
        You have NO idea how much material he has provided. There will be more than one laugh, I can guarantee it!

  3. hahaha… nice one Sammy. I used to say I wanted my ashes to be scattered in the Indian Ocean so then I could travel to my favourite countries – South Africa and Australia!

    • And here I thought I was the only one crazy enough to be contemplating (or controlling) what I won’t be around to experience. I love your idea for you, connecting to all the places you hold in your heart.

  4. Thanks for the fun to start this day. I hope you both enjoy many more of those walks while you figure out where to spread the ashes.

  5. Great photo!

  6. Have to admit, you got me

  7. Ha, he got you there! But I’m sure it was followed with, “But seriously, going to those places without you just wouldn’t be the same.” Right? ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. LOVE the photo Sammy! We’re even dressed the same in white and blue!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Men! They really know how to ruin a thoughtful moment! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  9. LOL, funny guy! And you totally got me with the April fools joke. ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. Hee! Good one, Sammy. Enjoyed every word.

  11. Haha, that first one totally got me!! And your husband’s answer in the second one is just as funny actually ๐Ÿ˜‰

  12. Your husband is quite the jokester. The April Fool’s was funny, too. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • We do like to laugh together ๐Ÿ˜‹ of course these kinds if jokes are only funny when the relationship is based in genuine trust. He is a gem in that respect.

      • I assumed that. It’s wonderful to have someone like that.

      • Hey Sammy, did you comment on my “C” post yesterday (4/3)? I always clean out my spam folder before I get started and just as I was hitting the delete key, I thought I saw a comment from you in there. I’m not sure how it got in there. Your comments have never ended up in the spam folder before. Anyway, if you did comment, I apologize for accidently deleting it. Sorry!!

      • I did ! Hub and I quote Inspector Clouseau all the time!

        I had one of my readers inexplicably show up in spam intermittantly for a few weeks. I kept clicking the ‘this isn’t spam’ and finally it stopped. One of the quirks of WordPress!

      • What’s fun is trying to say it in his “accent.”
        I’ll start checking what’s in the spam folder before I delete it from now on. Don’t want to miss your comments! ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Our favorites are “does your dog bite” and “do you have a room” – all in his twisted accent, as you say. We laugh every time ๐Ÿ˜

      • Yes, those, and the “Do you have a mas-sage for me?”

  13. too funny! we do not have this conversation because we are both widow/ers. but i’ve tought about it. i take it no a-to-z this year?

  14. Haha. I love it, Sammy. They sure say the funniest things, don’t they. But I couldn’t take my eyes off that picture. Such a nice smile. Love it. Great post, glad I clicked on it in this crazy AZ dash that’s going on.

    • You have your hands full, Doll. Don’t stress if you’re not visiting here. I know where to find you๐Ÿ’–. Thanks for the compliment – we all looked good back then LOL

  15. Bless him, Sammy! I can see the twinkle in his eye ๐Ÿ™‚ Sending your beloved a big hug! Happy Easter to you both ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. A huge LOL! You got me with the first one. The second one was even more hilarious! He’s a funny one!

  17. Thanks for the giggle.

    • oops pressed enter too quickly. Jokes aside it’s important to have those conversations regularly, priorities change with different stages in our life. My man and I talk about selling up to buy a faulty yacht and getting lost at sea together, or spreading ashes in the ocean so the tides carry us around the world… In reality I prefer not to think about it too much

      • โ˜บ๏ธ thanks for stopping by. You are right; there are serious conversations to be had as well. But joking is more fun! Your idea is quirky and comical. Especially the ‘faulty yacht’ part ๐Ÿ˜‰

  18. You two are too cute, Sammy! Here’s hoping you have a very long life together and many laughs along the way.

    With heart,

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