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Shootin’ the Summer Breeze

If we were having coffee, I’d whisk us to Berlin, Germany to Dimension Alley, billed as the first 3-D Printer café.

In D-Alley’s own words, “The café serves traditional English fare: Cornish pasties, pies, scones with Strawberry Jam and Cream, cakes and biscuits. We have tea imported from the UK as well as great Berlin coffee.”

That’s not even the fun part!

The café features a 3-D printer so you can design and manufacture your own coffee cup, or perhaps a superhero with the face of your coffee-mate!

Don’t worry. If Berlin is too far to go for coffee, these printers are coming soon to a coffee shop near you.

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Wonderful Team Member Readership Award

It’s uncanny! Just the other day I was thinking, I haven’t seen any posts about bloggers receiving awards lately. Perhaps that’s a seasonal activity. When BAM – much to my surprise and delight, my dear friend Marci at Fuzzy Undertones nominated me for the Wonderful Team Member Readership Award.

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This nomination is special to me because it’s an Award for Readership. I am a more active reader than writer, devoting more time to reading blogs and commenting than to publishing my own posts. Part of that is a conscious effort to support other bloggers. Although I’m a newbie blogger, I am an elder citizen of “my” world if not “the” world. I understand how important support and guidance are, especially in these times when public discourse can be so hurtful. If I can use my experience and skills to exhibit positive etiquette and supportive, meaningful comments in the blogging world, it’s a small legacy I take pride in.

At first, when I wrote that paragraph, I thought, “Well that sounds pretentious!” and I almost deleted it. Then I read Marci’s response when I thanked her for nominating me. Here’s what she wrote:

Oh, thank you Sammy! Cloggers…I love it! 🐱 You were first on my list of nominations for a reason…not only do you give me so much support and encouragement for my own blogging, I see you commenting on a lot of other blogs out there too, spreading the blove (blog love)! In fact, you’re responsible for introducing me to some of my favorite blogs – you’ve proven to be not only a great online resource, but a role-model for the type of reader and supporter that I’d like to be

WOW – high praise indeed. Thank you again, Marci.

Why do I read such a wide variety of blogs?

I have an insatiable curiosity which is increasing as I age. I am fascinated that so many global bloggers willingly share your life experiences, your opinions, and your imagination with me. I feel every connection sending out ripples that expand my world and induce me to think more deeply about the people in it. Reading blogs is truly reading an anthology of humanity, and I am privileged to participate as well as bear witness.

This post is getting long enough, so I will save my “What traits do we desire in our readers?” for a new day.

Marci has already nominated several bloggers I would have nominated for this award. I recommend you explore each of those, especially you cat lovers! In addition, I’d like to nominate the following bloggers whose faithful reading means so much to me:

Lainey at Laineyrain
Lainey is one of my first, kindest and most supportive readers. She often links to bloggers I recommend and supports them, too.

Justine at Eclectic Odds ‘n Sods
What can I say about Justine? Always here; always upbeat; a little naughty; a reader I adore.

Celine at Celine JeanJean
Another regular reader who rarely stops at one (always meaningful) comment. Celine is all about connections, and will brighten your day.

Silvia at Silvia writes
Although I don’t hear from Silvia as often, she leaves such thoughtful comments that I know she does more than skim my posts. She truly thinks about what I’m saying and offers plenty of good insights.

Maggie at The Zombies Ate My Brains
Another reader whose opinions I appreciate; we don’t always see eye-to-eye, but we always learn from each other.

All my readers deserve to be mentioned, and I will continue showing my appreciation in my ongoing “shout-out” posts. And a PS to my favorite crone, Linda, I have a special surprise coming for you 🙂 Soon !

Oh, I almost forgot – for the above nominees, here are your acceptance rules. As always you can follow them, ignore the award entirely, or “bend” like I do. That’s the beauty of free speech.

The original rules of accepting this award are as follows:
1.The Nominee of the Wonderful Team Member Readership Award shall display the logo on his/her post/page and/or sidebar.
2.The Nominee shall nominate 14 readers they appreciate over a period of 7 days (1 week) – this can be done at any rate during the week. It can be ALL on one day or a few on one day and a few on another day, etc.
3.The Nominee shall name his or her Wonderful Team Member Readership Award nominees on a post or on posts during the 7 day (1 week) period.
4.The Nominee shall make these rules, or amended rules keeping to the spirit of the Wonderful Team Member Readership Award, known to each reader s/he nominates.
5.The Nominee must finish this sentence and post: “A great reader is…”

“Two Misfits. One Extraordinary Love.”

Eleanor & Park

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This is the description on the inside cover of Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell. I loved reading this book. It is designated a Young Adult (YA) book, and the writing is concise and uncomplicated. But Eleanor’s and Park’s emotions and actions are universal as they try to find their niche in a confusing, sometimes inhospitable world.

When I look through my library of favorite books – the 5-star books I read again and again; the books I lug with me every time we move; the books I never lend because I can’t bear to lose them – I find many that could be succinctly described as “Two Misfits. One Extraordinary Love.”

Not all are about romantic love. Love between a parent and a child, two siblings or two unlikely companions can be just as palpable and endearing as a romance.

Defining a “misfit” presumes we have an accepted definition for “normal”.  That’s a discussion for another day. The characters in these books affect me because of their circumstantial or social struggles.

Sometimes the misfits dominate the plot; sometimes the extraordinary love is what lies at the heart of the story.

Here, in no particular order, are my favorite “Two Misfits. One Extraordinary Love” books:

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  • God-Shaped Hole by Tiffanie DeBartolo
  • How to Kill a Rock Star by Tiffanie DeBartolo
  • The Flawless Skin of Ugly People by Doug Crandell
  • Love Is a Mix Tape by Rob Sheffield
  • Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer
  • I Know This Much Is True by Wally Lamb
  • Loving Frank by Nancy Horan
  • The Time Traveler’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger

Next in my stack of to-read books that might end up in this category:

  • The Fault in Our Stars by John Green

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Am I missing any “must have” books in this section of my library?

S is for Sandwich

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“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile. Some leave footprints on our hearts and we are never, ever the same.” quote by Flavia

Rick appeared without fanfare during an extremely stressful and busy season at the pub. I knew, the moment I laid eyes on him, he would leave his mark on me. I hadn’t had a day off in weeks, rarely stopping long enough to eat a decent lunch, and working late into the night before falling into bed to toss and turn until the all-too-early alarm the following morning.

Suddenly with a sense of joyful anticipation, I found myself leaving work in the middle of the afternoon, headed with Rick to Rocky Mountain Joe’s Café. Most days – the lunch crowd already departed – we had the place to ourselves. Early spring snow drifted lazily past the windows as we drank our chamomile tea, and Rick introduced me to peanut butter and honey sandwiches. He talked to me about his journey, his dreams and questioned me about my path and what it meant to me. For those hours, on those days, Rick enticed me into his world and gave me respite from my own.

Two months later, he was gone – a vagabond bound for horizons beyond my scope in his road-warrior Volkswagon bus.

I can’t quite bring myself to eat a PBH without him.

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Q is for Quaker Oatmeal

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Hub and I eat a lot of Quaker oatmeal.

We stir a lot more oatmeal than we eat. Let me explain.

A couple years into our relationship, after we decided to get married, Hub bought an audio tape series called, “How to Have a Successful Marriage”. The lessons were all cleverly titled with words beginning with “C”, like Communication, Conflict and Chores.

The analogy used by the series narrator in the Chores lesson was “stirring the oatmeal.” Oatmeal symbolized life’s necessities, and stirring was the work we must do to provide our household’s necessities. Stirring can be done by the same individual every time, by both individuals together, or on some kind of rotating basis. But it must be done.

Couples with successful relationships figure out – together – which method works for them for each chore in their relationship.

Understanding, early in our relationship, the importance of identifying and taking ownership of routine, sometimes time-consuming and unpleasant aspects of every day life allowed us to do so in a way that was equitable, unemotional, and respectful of the amount of effort required to accomplish each chore.

Who “stirs the oatmeal” has changed through the years, depending on who has the time, the interest or the expertise for completing a task.

But we have always used that phrase, “stirring the oatmeal” to refer to our chores. “I need you to stir the oatmeal” when the toilet needs fixing, or “let’s stir today and play golf tomorrow” when we’ve got a list of chores that have piled up from weeks of neglect and all we want to do is play.

Corny? Perhaps, but it starts those “drudgery” conversations on a high note. For us, the phrase is a subtle reminder of that long ago fresh, new love when we would gladly have done anything with, or for, each other.

 

Note: Thanks for stopping! I should be back online tonight or tomorrow and will reply to your comments then!

 

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Does That Come With a Swizzle Stick?

Every year, although I reassure him it’s not necessary, Hub insists on taking me out to dinner for my birthday.

In January.

After several weeks of holiday parties and over-indulging and way too many nights away from my comfy perch.

This year, in lieu of dining out, he bought tickets to Ladies’ Comedy Night at Miner’s Alley, a teeny tiny theater in Golden, Colorado. I wasn’t sure he realized that meant THE CROWD would be ladies, not just the comedians. Sure enough, when we walked into the theater, the cacophony of voices was decidedly high-pitched. We spotted three vacant seats in the middle row (there are only five rows) and sat down.

To the left of us – a group of women complaining about work. Behind us – three women yakking about their kids. In front of us – two women loudly discussing their post-divorce status and luck (or lack thereof) on the local dating scene.

“You ok?” I asked Hub.

“Sure”, he smiled gamely, his eyes searching the crowd for signs of testosterone.

I thought to myself, “at least he’s got an empty seat beside him to buffer him a little.”

Just before the show began, an attractive 30-ish blonde, holding a cocktail, excused herself across several seated patrons and slid into the seat next to Hub. Looking at both of us, she smiled brightly and said, “Hi, I’m Casey. I have a Perky Nipple. Would you like one?”

Hub turned to me, arched his eyebrow, and we burst out laughing.

“Sure,” I piped up. “Give the man a Perky Nipple. Lord knows it’s been awhile … “

Should I be worried that Hub bought himself a season ticket to Ladies’ Comedy Night?

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Save the Last Dance for Me

Finding true love on Valentine’s Day?

Only in fairy tales.

Except for that one year…. during the last dance ….when his witty comeback tickled my funny bone….

I met my husband in 1987 on Valentine’s Day. No, not love at first sight, but a light-hearted beginning with just enough spice to pique our mutual interest.

It was the typical fundraiser….stately mansion, tuxedos & fancy dresses, music, gambling, gourmet food and champagne…

Except this fundraiser had a unique twist. Tickets were sold only to women. Each woman anonymously invited 5 men.

So men showed up, unattached and full of curiosity. Women showed up, knowing they’d be surrounded by handsomely dressed single men. LOTS OF ‘EM !

The atmosphere was electric and upbeat and oh-so-comfortable. Not at all like the dreaded singles bar.

I danced, gambled, mingled and occasionally glimpsed a certain man in the crowd smiling at me. The kind of smile that says, “I know something you don’t.”

Toward the end of the evening, I was dancing with a partner when a woman approached me. She discreetly handed me a man’s business card with some writing on the back. I glanced quickly. It read, “Please call me. Let’s go skiing.” I finished the dance, thanked my partner, and turned to walk into the crowd.

Waiting for me was the man with The Smile. He took my hand and led me back to the dance floor. A slow dance had begun and our conversation – each of us grinning madly – went something like this:

“I don’t ski.”

“Why not?”

“I’m pretty busy at work.”

“Do you like movies?”

“No, I’m pretty busy at work.”

“What about dinner some evening?”

“No, I’m pretty busy at work.”

(Aside: I WAS very busy at work. I was also very happily single with plenty of friends and activities. I hadn’t come to the party to find a man; I had come to dance!)

“Please, I’d like to take you out. Is that possible?”

“No, I’m sorry. I work from 6am until 6pm, then I work out, then I go home and crash. I’m in bed by 10 every night.”

Suddenly he stopped dancing, placed his hands on my shoulders, bent down to look me squarely in the eye, and said,

“Don’t worry. I WILL have you in bed by 10.”

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